As dancers and as living human beings, we will face many failures and difficulties. This is not anything out of the normal, its just a part of life. Even though I know this fact, I still take these difficulties to heart, and struggle deeply with the idea of failure. Maybe it’s because I’m a perfectionist, and it’s just a part of my nature. Maybe,it’s because as a dancers we are trained that little mistakes are wrong, and will lead to failure because we won’t reach our goal of perfection. Whatever the reason, the idea of failing and not succeeding at my dream frightens me.
Each of us has his or her idea of what success looks like. For some, it’s having plenty of financial security, or becoming a published author, famous, or winning an award. My ultimate success would to become a professional ballerina. No, that’s not my only goal in life, but it’s my dream job.
Some ( outside my family of course, they are so supportive!) think that this dream of mine is foolish or unrealistic. They think that I am wasting my time, energy, youth, passion in chasing this dream. They are wrong, however, because anything I pour into dance is not a waste. ( Sometimes my parents have to remind me of that, in my rare moments of wallowing in self pity):-)
Because of dance I’m learning some very valuable lessons about life. I’m learning that the road to achieving our dreams will not be easy . The path that we choose to walk on in order to achieve our goals will be filled with crushing obstacles, endless difficulties, hard choices and many sacrifices. We will feel sadness and overwhelming hopelessness at times. We will feel defeated and wonder why we try so hard every day, when our dreams seem so unattainable. We will be surrounded by countless naysayers. Our friends will dwindle down to a number so small we can count them using our hands. We will have to pour blood, sweat and tears into our dream because everything worth having is worth fighting for.
We will also experience much joy because we are chasing down our dreams and doing what we love. We will share that joy with the people who loved and supported us no matter what. We will treasure the small victories, and triumphs along the way and when we reach our goals, we be grateful because we will know what we overcame to succeed.
This week I have been thinking about success a lot and this quote really inspired me. ” Success is stumbling from failure to failure, with no loss of enthusiasm.” Churchill. Maybe the way we view success is flawed. Perhaps we put too much pressure on ourselves to reach our goal of perfection instead of just enjoying the steps that take us there.
This week, give yourself a break! Look at the progress you HAVE made towards your goal instead of looking at the progress you haven’t made. Look at the beauty around you, and really dance the steps that you must take to get to your destination. If you never reach you goal, don’t despair. You at least tried and fought to get it. You got a lot closer than the people who stopped fighting. Last, but not least, remember this. Even if you stumble and fall, as long as you try to get back up, it isn’t failure.
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